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No point fretting

You are in a rush and you are probably late too. You get what you need and head for the checkout. You are met by nothing but long queues and what appears to be dismally slow service.
You start mumbking to yourself, the foot tapping starts in ernest. You check how fast the other lines are moving. Are they moving faster than yours? Should you move to that line? You check Facebook and post some inappropriate post about how rubbish this shop is. You check Facebook again but no replies. You get irritated with your 1523 “friends” that no one is as irritated as you are.

What is the point of you doing this?  So many of us do this and for what for? There is nothing to gain from stressing yourself out about waiting.  One of my first jobs included going to the tax offices in my home town. At first i did not understand the system and it seemed pathetic and unorganised.  Over the first few weeks, I began to understand the system and why it was the way it was. This office has been around for quite some time so they had perfected the system.

From then on i have changed  the way I think about lines and certainly long lines at government offices. I often have long lines that i encounter and prepare for. Example: we had to get passports for our kids. For this both parents and both kids need to be present. That office is so crowded that they actually limit fhe people inside to 200 to prevent any dangerous situations.

What did we do?

I went early and got in the queue with my book and tablet and all the  documents needed. My wife had the kids at home ready to arrive later when the line had subsided somewhat. While I was in the line, I wrote an article for my business website http://www.bcas.co.za and a blog post for my personal blog as well as read for 25 minutes. It was a long wait. Can you imagine having 2 kids under 5 years old in that line?

Another great idea to pasd time in these long lines is to people watch. Just generally look around and watch the people in the same situation as you. What are they doing? It can be quite good fun.

Next time you are in a longer than planned queue or a planned queue, sit or stand and relax. You will be served at some stage so do not fret and stress about something you cannot change.

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Just like a work of art, we are all a work in progress. Some are further down their roads of progress than others. That is perfect actually because despite what everyone thinks, we are the only ones on our roads.
The race is long but in the end it’s only with yourself. If you have ever done any sporting event of any description,  you will know this.  You can get help along the way but you still have to run or cycle or paddle or whatever,  whatever the distance is.

The same principle applies in life. Unfortunately,  it does not always seem like this. You may be struggling with something in your life and really battling to u derstand why it is happening or how to get through and the people around you are cruising along with everything going their way. This is a facade.

We are all battling to keep it together in one or more ways. You see life gives a bag of things to carry but the contents can be very different.  A couple may be battling to have a child while another couple accidetly falls pregnant. However, the first couple are married and have a stable relationship and the other couple are unmarried amd live in different cities. 
Basically, what comes around around. Sometimes you are up and sometimes you are down but at all times you are wonderful work in progress.

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Just like a work of art, we are all a work in progress. Some are further down their roads of progress than others. That is perfect actually because despite what everyone thinks, we are the only ones on our roads.
The race is long but in the end it’s only with yourself. If you have ever done any sporting event of any description,  you will know this.  You can get help along the way but you still have to run or cycle or paddle or whatever,  whatever the distance is.

The same principle applies in life. Unfortunately,  it does not always seem like this. You may be struggling with something in your life and really battling to u derstand why it is happening or how to get through and the people around you are cruising along with everything going their way. This is a facade.

We are all battling to keep it together in one or more ways. You see life gives a bag of things to carry but the contents can be very different.  A couple may be battling to have a child while another couple accidetly falls pregnant. However, the first couple are married and have a stable relationship and the other couple are unmarried amd live in different cities. 
Basically, what comes around around. Sometimes you are up and sometimes you are down but at all times you are wonderful work in progress.

Have you changed?

We took a drive one December to see an old colleague and we had a great time. They were and still are great guys and we had a great day by the pool. 3 years later, we did the same trip almost to the hour, even getting lost as we did 3 years ago. This time my daugther was 3 years older and my son was already 1 year old. They, as they do, took us in and we had a fantastic time. They took on our kids as they were best friends that see them every weekend. A great time was had by all of us.

When we got back home, I sent a message of thanks to them and also to tell them we got home safely (it was about 130km trip). At first I was surprised at the message that was sent back. It said, “thank you for a great day and I am so glad that you guys have not changed at all”.It had been 3 years since the last time we went to their house and a huge amount of change had happened in that time to each one of us.

Amongst other things, I had been retrenched, started my own business and our family grew with another bundle of joy. Some pretty dramatic changes, if you ask me!Having thought about this comment for a little while, it dawned on me that actually, despite all the changes that occur in our daily lives, the core person you are should not actually change. Just because I had been retrenched, it does not mean that i should change who i am. Your core values and who you are as a person should actually never change.

A fine example of this is a long, loving marriage. 2 young, energetic people get together and get married. 50 years later, that marriage is still going. The couple may not be as young and energetic anymore but on the inside, they are still the same person. They are the person that the other fell in love with – just with 50 years of life. The point here is that the person inside should never change. Circumstances may change the outer covering but it does not change who you are.

The next time someone says, after you have seen each other for many years, “you have not changed a bit”, take it as a compliment. Who you are inside is what is important and is what others will notice more than the outer appearance.

Stress myths debunked

You have many roles you play in life this can make life quite stressful. Stress has to be managed properly and in trying to help you, we debunk six common  myths about stress.Dispelling the myths around stress enables us to understand our problems and then take action against them, so that stress does not become a hurdle to your company’s success.
Myth 1: Stress is the same for everybody.
Wrong! Stress is different for everyone. What is stressful for one person may or may not be for another; each of us responds to stress in an entirely different way.

Myth 2: Stress is always bad for you.
This means that no stress makes us happy and healthy, right?
Wrong again.
There is such a thing as good stress; a new relationship, a lucrative business deal, etc. Stress can be the kiss of death or the spice of life. The difference is how to handle it. Properly managed stress makes us productive and happy; mismanaged stress hurts and even kills us.

Myth 3: Stress is part of life, so you can’t do anything about it.
Not entirely true. You can plan your life so that stress does not overwhelm you. This involves setting priorities; solving simple problems first and then going on to more complex issues. Without the proper planning, all your problems seem equal and stress seems to be everywhere.

Myth 4: The most popular techniques for reducing stress are the best ones.
See myth number one – There is no one universally effective stress reduction technique. We are all different, our lives, situations are different and our reactions are different. Only a comprehensive programme tailored to the individual works.

Myth 5: No symptoms, no stress.
The absence of symptoms doesn’t mean your don’t have stress. In fact, camouflaging symptoms with medication, alcohol or other vices may deprive you of the signals you need for reducing the toll on your body and mind.

Myth 6: Only major symptoms of stress require attention.
This myth assumes that the “minor” symptoms, such as headaches or stomach acid, may be safely ignored. Minor symptoms of stress are the early warnings that your life is getting out of hand and that you need to do a better job of managing stress. So listen to what your body is tell you and take action.

Most people know how to ride a bike. If you do not know how, I would love you to learn. It is a great outdoor activity for all ages. I have ridden a bike from when I was about 5 years old. I only took it up as a hobby about 15 years ago. I now spend between 2 and 6 hours on my bike per week. Not a huge amount of time compared to Continue Reading »