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Walk away

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Fatherhood

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Can’t? Don’t!

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Without

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What next?

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When a baby cries, the parents can tell instinctively whether it’s a hungry cry, a tired cry or a ‘I am in pain’ cry. The same thing can be said about couples in a relationship or even close friends. They can tell when something is wrong or not quite right. They know when the other person is not feeling well or upset.
This is a skill that one develops from time spent together. If you have someone like this,  keep them close because they are a gift. This skill is so often overlooked by the person who knows us the best. Who is this? YOU.
We can tell when someone else is upset or hurting but when it comes to our own health and well being, we simply overlook the signs or symptoms.

Let’s look deeper. When you are sick and go to the doctor, what do you tell him? Can you give real clues as to what happened or when it started? Do you shrug your shoulders and say ‘nothing changed and now I feel like this’? I am always amused when I hear people say that there computer is not working but ‘nothing happened’ or ‘I did nothing and it just stopped working’. The same relates to ourselves. There are ALWAYS warning signs but we fail to recognise them as what they are. They are WARNING us about something!

Everybody can feel good when life is going well. Every can recognise hiccups and the causes when life is going well, when the bills are paid and your relationships are all in a good place. Its when life hits you in the mouth, that you have to be able to recognise the causative factors. I have found this process to be more successful when you work backwards. I will illustrate with an example. I was in a down patch and things were not going well. After a few days, I felt myself a bit down or depressed and linked the 2 together. I had to recognise that I was depressed before I could see the causative factor.
Most of the time, you cannot join the dots in real time but rather only look back and see how they link up. Hindsight is a perfect science as the saying goes.  If you are aware of changes going on in your own life, it will be easier to recognise and maybe even prevent problems in your future.