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BHAG 2016

Dont worry, this is not some dodgy religious, extremist group, but rather a very good idea to sit and ponder over.
So what is it? Here is the breakdown:
B ig
H airy
A udacious
G oal
Have a good think as to what you really want in the next year (or less) and write it down. Keep in the front of your mind that these goals should fit ALL the criteria above.
By thinking of these goals, you may get a bit scared and prefer to go for a more conservative goal but why should you? You want to do something that is amazing in life and in particular in the next 12 months so why not go big, hairy and audacious?
How do you know if it fits all the criteria? 
1. You cannot choose something you have done before. What’s the point of that?
2. You must believe that you can do it. A tough one this but you will know deep down if you can do it.
3. These are goals that you have been thinking about for a long time. More often  than not, we talk ourselves out of these goals.
And last but possibly the most importantly,
4. When you tell people about these goals, they will think that they are either stupid and out of reach or plain impossible. That is the reactio  you want.
Personally, I love it when people say it’s impossible because that gives me the perfect motivation to do it. There is nothing proving people wrong and showing them that you can do it despite what they think.
A word of advice here,  have a strong support structure to be behind you through the process because with the nature of the goals, you will meet adversity and constant negativity drom everyone around.  tou need some support to keep you on the path.

So what are your BHAG for the next 12 months? Write them down and share them! Then one thing is left to do: do whatever it takes to achieve those goals.

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Not my circus, not my monkey!

Not my circus, not my monkey!

That is a phrase that is being plastered all over social media currently and and I think it is fantastic!  I interpret this as if it is not your problem then you do npt have to worry about it. I take it one step further and say that if you have dealt with a particular issue and it has been resolved or you have do everything in your power to resolve it, then it’s not your monkey and not your circus.

I recently had an opportunity to actually put this into practise.  I got a message from a friend and  colleague who was sick in bed to ask me whether I had resigned.  I of course said no. Well, actually I said some other things but that was the basic message. She had heard it from another colleague at a different office. When I found this rumour was being spread, I was so angry. I was so angry that I did not know whether to laugh, scream or cry. I knew I had to confront the person and stop this in its tracks before it got too far but how do I react to such a stupid rumour when I was so angry? I sought advice from an older colleague and she said don’t do anything until you have calmed down.

I didn’t do anything immediately.  In fact, I got up and went home as planned for lunch with my wife.  I had a rant with her. She gets upset and we enter parallel universes where we could do what we really want to do in the situation. After those solutions, we have let off the steam and I headed back to work.
I now was calm. I responded to the people I needed to. Having got very little in return,  I moved on. I am now in peace with the situation because I know I have done all that I can do to resolve the issue. I can now honestly laugh about it. Where the phase comes in is that I know that they are still talking about but I don’t care. If they want to live a stupid dream world – thats their choice and again, not my monkey, not my circus.

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Tell them all you know

We live in an age of instant information.  At the click of a finger I can look up anything about anything with a relative surety of that information being correct. Unfortunately, people expect you to know absolutely everything by memory. This especially true in the example of a professional.  For example, a doctor just has to know exactly what you have and is expected to give the perfect medication to make you feel better than before.

There are a number of shortfalls in that expectation. The doctor is guided by what you tell him. If you have a headache and you tell him, he will try sort it out. If you don’t tell him that you have an ulcer, he cannot know that so he can try and sort that out. He also does not exactly what you have based on what you said. This information is patchy at best.  As far as the medication goes, there is no medication that is perfect for anything so count that idea out.

Despite what everybody thinks or wants, no one can know everything all the time. Give them the I formation and give it to them honestly. When you don’t know something (and there will be something you don’t know), be honest and say so.

The lesson here is this,  if you tell people something with the intention of helping anybody, no one will be upset provided you ask for help with the information you have in a decent manner. Expecting people to know everything about everything is expecting too much and it will only lead to a dead end and a bad end for somebody. More often than not it is the person trying get helped that is upset because they were only trying to get help and they end up being made out to be the bad one.

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Physical capacity

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Better to cry

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Baffle

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