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​There is only one investment that is guaranteed to make a gain in life. That is the investment in family. There are a lot of people to invest in but there are mainly 3 of these people that exist being yourself, your partner and your kids. You could write a whole book on yourself and your partner and this subject is beyond the scope of this book. The focus here is investing in your kids. Not one person has ever looked back over their life and said, “I wish I had worked harder”. If they do say that, then they are just not great people to be around.

You can invest for them such as saving for their education or their long term future. This is fantastic and I would really encourage this because it really does show you care about their well being later in life, perhaps after have passed away. Unfortunately, this is a perfect scenario that cannot always be carried out in the situation you or your family are in.

There are 2 options to make sure they are looked after.

1. Make sure your will is up to date. I am no expert in this and I would suggest a lawyer or attorney for this advice but making sure your will is in order, tells people that you have thought about your death ahead of time. This may sound backward but it will save them a huge amount of time, money and hassle subsequent to your passing.

2. Make memories.

Make the kind of memories that will stay with them forever. Perhaps you will learn a few things too! This type of memory does not have to be long, fancy overseas trips or extravagant gifts. Yes, those are nice but in 40 years time, will they be able to remember what present they got for their 4th birthday?

The type of memories i am talking about here is the kind of memory that they will tell their kids and grandkids and they will passed on through the generations. an example is that they will always remember talking to family and friends around the kitchen table. My kids are already got memories that will stay with them. They know that Daddy goes cycling and they go and watch me. My daughter even asks if I am going with granddad because I ride with my dad so often. These are small things when you single them out but they will last forever.

The investment in family is the only investment that will not fail or depreciate and in fact, it will only grow. It will even continue to grow after you pass away.

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Tale of the close shave

We all know about the 2 types of cyclists, the ones that have crashed, the ones that have crashed and those that will crash again. They make up some serious stories and most are exaggerated to some degree. What does not get repeated time and again are the close shaves with traffic and the near misses with pavements, light poles and other stationary objects. 

Here is one tale of the close shave.

There are only a few roads that lead from my house on my training rides. This particular route, i have cycled possibly 1000 times. Semi challenging when you are not warm but nothing too hectic. It involved a fairly long downhill section which is actually quite fast. On a normal day you can easily get to 65 km/h without much peddling. This hill is not 2,5 km into the training rides. This particular day it was quite windy so the hill was directly into a head wind, a fairly strong wind meant that maximum speed was 41km/h. Anyway, about halfway down the hill, there is a road on the left hand side. Mostly the cars stop and let you pass before joining the traffic flow. There is always the exception that proves the rule. This older lady, driving a small car, slowed down and had a look up the road but then carried on accelerating. 

At this stage, I was about 20 metres from the car! I was close enough that i actually saw her look right to see if the road was clear. I ride in the colours of the COWS and the kit is a black and white cow print. It is really obvious! I am also 193 cm tall weighing 90 odd kilograms. A fairly large object to miss! She missed me barrelling down the road? She pulls out and i had to make a make a call. Is she going to pull out – i would be able to miss her round the back of the car. Or is she going to stop. Roughly half way into the lane, she stopped. 

I was able to swerve arou d the car. In doing so, I uttered a few choice words! I politely asked her what she was doing and managed to keep it upright. What surprised me but yet it is pretty standard in Durban, is when we got to the lights at the bottom, the ldy looked at me as if to say, “what have i done wrong?”

I had to exercise serious constraint then and then had to calm down so I could finish the training ride. 

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2 types.

We all know about the 2 types of cyclists, the ones that have crashed, the ones that have crashed and those that will crash again. They make up some serious stories and most are exaggerated to some degree. What does not get repeated time and again are the close shaves with traffic and the near misses with pavements, light poles and other stationary objects. 

Here is one tale of the close shave.

There are only a few roads that lead from my house on my training rides. This particular route, i have cycled possibly 1000 times. Semi challenging when you are not warm but nothing too hectic. It involved a fairly long downhill section which is actually quite fast. On a normal day you can easily get to 65 km/h without much peddling. This hill is not 2,5 km into the training rides. This particular day it was quite windy so the hill was directly into a head wind, a fairly strong wind meant that maximum speed was 41km/h. Anyway, about halfway down the hill, there is a road on the left hand side. Mostly the cars stop and let you pass before joining the traffic flow. There is always the exception that proves the rule. This older lady, driving a small car, slowed down and had a look up the road but then carried on accelerating. 

At this stage, I was about 20 metres from the car! I was close enough that i actually saw her look right to see if the road was clear. I ride in the colours of the COWS and the kit is a black and white cow print. It is really obvious! I am also 193 cm tall weighing 90 odd kilograms. A fairly large object to miss! She missed me barrelling down the road? She pulls out and i had to make a make a call. Is she going to pull out – i would be able to miss her round the back of the car. Or is she going to stop. Roughly half way into the lane, she stopped. 

I was able to swerve arou d the car. In doing so, I uttered a few choice words! I politely asked her what she was doing and managed to keep it upright. What surprised me but yet it is pretty standard in Durban, is when we got to the lights at the bottom, the ldy looked at me as if to say, “what have i done wrong?”

I had to exercise serious constraint then and then had to calm down so I could finish the training ride. 

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A Work In Progress

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Just like a work of art, we are all a work in progress. Some are further down their roads of progress than others. That is perfect actually because despite what everyone thinks, we are the only ones on our roads.
The race is long but in the end it’s only with yourself. If you have ever done any sporting event of any description,  you will know this.  You can get help along the way but you still have to run or cycle or paddle or whatever,  whatever the distance is.

The same principle applies in life. Unfortunately,  it does not always seem like this. You may be struggling with something in your life and really battling to u derstand why it is happening or how to get through and the people around you are cruising along with everything going their way. This is a facade.

We are all battling to keep it together in one or more ways. You see life gives a bag of things to carry but the contents can be very different.  A couple may be battling to have a child while another couple accidetly falls pregnant. However, the first couple are married and have a stable relationship and the other couple are unmarried amd live in different cities. 
Basically, what comes around around. Sometimes you are up and sometimes you are down but at all times you are wonderful work in progress.

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Just like a work of art, we are all a work in progress. Some are further down their roads of progress than others. That is perfect actually because despite what everyone thinks, we are the only ones on our roads.
The race is long but in the end it’s only with yourself. If you have ever done any sporting event of any description,  you will know this.  You can get help along the way but you still have to run or cycle or paddle or whatever,  whatever the distance is.

The same principle applies in life. Unfortunately,  it does not always seem like this. You may be struggling with something in your life and really battling to u derstand why it is happening or how to get through and the people around you are cruising along with everything going their way. This is a facade.

We are all battling to keep it together in one or more ways. You see life gives a bag of things to carry but the contents can be very different.  A couple may be battling to have a child while another couple accidetly falls pregnant. However, the first couple are married and have a stable relationship and the other couple are unmarried amd live in different cities. 
Basically, what comes around around. Sometimes you are up and sometimes you are down but at all times you are wonderful work in progress.

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Have you changed?

We took a drive one December to see an old colleague and we had a great time. They were and still are great guys and we had a great day by the pool. 3 years later, we did the same trip almost to the hour, even getting lost as we did 3 years ago. This time my daugther was 3 years older and my son was already 1 year old. They, as they do, took us in and we had a fantastic time. They took on our kids as they were best friends that see them every weekend. A great time was had by all of us.

When we got back home, I sent a message of thanks to them and also to tell them we got home safely (it was about 130km trip). At first I was surprised at the message that was sent back. It said, “thank you for a great day and I am so glad that you guys have not changed at all”.It had been 3 years since the last time we went to their house and a huge amount of change had happened in that time to each one of us.

Amongst other things, I had been retrenched, started my own business and our family grew with another bundle of joy. Some pretty dramatic changes, if you ask me!Having thought about this comment for a little while, it dawned on me that actually, despite all the changes that occur in our daily lives, the core person you are should not actually change. Just because I had been retrenched, it does not mean that i should change who i am. Your core values and who you are as a person should actually never change.

A fine example of this is a long, loving marriage. 2 young, energetic people get together and get married. 50 years later, that marriage is still going. The couple may not be as young and energetic anymore but on the inside, they are still the same person. They are the person that the other fell in love with – just with 50 years of life. The point here is that the person inside should never change. Circumstances may change the outer covering but it does not change who you are.

The next time someone says, after you have seen each other for many years, “you have not changed a bit”, take it as a compliment. Who you are inside is what is important and is what others will notice more than the outer appearance.

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