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Are you a grumpy bum?

Everyday, whether you believe it or not, you choose to be happy or you choose to be grumpy. It is actually a conscience choice and we make it everyday. Most of us don’t even realise that we have made the choice but we do and often it is the wrong one.

I walked into our office this morning,  to see the office has changed significantly with the addition of some dry walls that were erected over the 3 day long weekend.

My initial thought?
Wow, that’s what they were talking about.
Second thought?
I am glad that they managed to do it over the weekend so we can enjoy a relatively disruption free day to carry on business as usual. Pretty positive if you ask me.This positivity was met by some serious opposition when a colleague walked in and started listing all the negative things about the office changes. 

This really got on my nerves and eventually I said okay, please focus on the good points about this change please. Well, that went down like a lead balloon and the negativity continued. There are 2 choices everyday, a positive and a negative. I am not saying that everything is roses and sunshine but everything is not doom and gloom either.

I have come to learn that some people actually like being negative and picking apart even the good things in life. They don’t choose to be happy and by doing this they choose to be ‘grumpy bums’ as we say in our family. These grumpy bums are often very nice people but they are very negative people and have to be worked on to get them to be positive. 

I have also found that these grumpy bums have 2 common traits.
1. They like complaining and moaning and
2. They moan about the same problems over and over again. 
These problems are often not life changing either. These problems are those annoying problems that have a habit of sticking around. These are great pickings for these grumpy bums which just grab them with both hands like a dog with a bone and they do not let go.

Are you one of the grumpy bums our do you actively choose to be a ready of sunshine in the world.

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The Way You See It

The attitude you hold or the mindset you have about anything is the crucial factor in life. How you look at things is the difference between those experiences being a drain and a stressful event or an amazing,  exciting time in your life. By no means, just because you have the correct attitude will it mean that the experience will be less difficult to deal with. It might well be as difficult but you will come through and out the other side a stronger,  mpre positive person.

In the workplace,  retrenchment is possibly the most difficult situation to find yourself in. A few years ago, I found my self in a fantastic job with a company that looked only to be expanding and going places. I was under some great people and they were happy to share there knowledge ans expertise so we could achieve those goals and targets.  That dream ended pretty rapidly when I found myself the perfect candidate of the LIFO method ie: last in first out. On paper, it is a very logical and simple way to deal with such a situation.  In this respect, I cannot fault or blame the company.  In real life, the bitter pill was a lot harder to swallow.

After talking it over, I managed to swallow that pill and learned that it was actually one of the biggest blessings I have ever had. I received the news of my retrenchment 2 days after my daughter (and first child) was born and my wife was in hospital. I told her that evening and finished up just days after she and my daughter were discharged. It was an extended stay because of various complications.  My wife and daughter, at that moment, needed me to look after them. The retrenchment gave me that opportunity.  Although I still furiously hunted for a job daily, over the next 4 1/2 months,  I built a bond with my daughter that goes beyond all words.
There is no telling life will bring you. Be sure that when it arrives, you look at it in the right way because, although it may be a exponential learning curve, it may just be the best thing for you to go through.  The attitude you go in with will determine the lessons you learn from the experience.

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