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The new year ishere andthe resilutions are on everybody’s lips. Have you made any?

Better question is: should you really made them?

Far too many people make all sorts of resolutions which, I believe, they actually have no intention of keeping. There are 3 types of resolutions that are made:

1. Resolutions that are made and kept.

2. Resolutions that are made but not quite kept. Eg: you want to lose 25kg and, despite your best efforts, you lost 20kg. 

3. Resolutions that are made with no intentions of being kept.

Number 1 and 2 are great. You got up and changed something in order to get to your resolution. You may not get to it but you gave it your best shot. You can only try your best. Many outside factors can affect this process.

Number 3, however, is a different story. This can happen can for any aspect of life but, more odten than not, it involvesthe fatal words of “diet” and “exercise”. 

Examples. I want to be more healthy. I want to go to gym more often. I want to lose 20kg. The list is endless. These often sound like excuses or something that you “should be” doing rather than wanting to do them.

The way to see if you are making the correct resolutions are the responses that you have at the end of the year. 

1. Nailed it! Let’s do it again. 

2. Oh so close, i will tweak it slightly and nail it this year.

3. Yes, i did but i really should ……. blah blah excuse.

The best thing about resolutions is that they are never cast in stone. They can be revised to a certain degree, not completely and not to suit you not wanting to do it! 

Example: you set your resolution at running a marathon in the next year. You are training well and everything is on course. Then you sustain an injury that halts your training for 2 months. The year ends with the resolution not being met. The outside factor changed the outcome but the real motive behind it was met. That is the training, healthy eating and good rest. 

Resolutions are and can be incredible life changing promises to yourself and all your friends and family but only if you really want them to happen.

Last question: are you really going to do that? If not, don’t say it, you are only fooling yourself. 

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“If you fail to plan – you plan to fail”

This an age old saying . It is a common saying but one that no one really take seriously when it comes to their New Years Resolutions. Failing to plan is probably the biggest reason for not keeping to all your resolutions. Can you even remember what your 2012 resolutions were?

At the time of writing – roughly 11am (South African time) – there are already a huge number of people breaking their resolutions already. if you listen to peoples resolutions – they are generally vague and have no plan to them at all. I am sure you have heard (or said) one of the following:

  • Eat more healthily
  • Go to gym (more)
  • Stop drinking alcohol
  • Save more money
  • Read the Bible (more)
  • Lose 10kg (or more)
  • Stop smoking
  • etc etc

All of those are often broken by about mid-January and causes quite a lot of stress, strain and creates a depressed feeling for the person who said it and the people around them. Disappointment is a huge feeling that hangs around this topic – most people have never kept a resolution through to its end, hence the topic not a happy and exciting one.

So what can you do this year (there is still time) to make sure your resolutions stick?

Write your resolutions down.

  • A resolution will be nothing more than that if it is not written down.

Be specific

  • Go to gym more – too vague!
  • Go to gym twice a week from 5 – 6pm – much better!

Be realistic

  • I enjoy cycling. I would love to make a resolution of cycling 6 000 km in 2013. This however works out to an average of about 120km per week. This is at least 20km per week further than I have ever gone before so there is very little chance of it happening. The more realistic target would be 5 000km at an average of just under 100 km per week.

Do not change who you are

  • Stay true to who you are. Do not change you but rather what you do.
  • If you love chocolate, do not say “I will give up all chocolate products” because that not who you are.
  • Do not have a resolution because everyone else is doing it.

Add 2 columns top the right of the resolution.

  • Plan
    • You have to plan.
    • When I go cycling – I have to plan it because I have the early morning shift with my daughter. I have to discuss it with my wife so she can be awake if necessary. This is not permission to go cycling though.
  • Action taken
    • This is for as you start with your plans – writing you actions will encourage you. You can also look back at what works for you and what does not.


So what are your resolutions for 2013.  Let me know how you are going to achieve them!

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In the sport of rugby, at a certain stage of events, the team who has the possession of the ball is told by the ref “to use or lose it”. It makes sense (sometimes) because what is the point of having the ball if you are not going to use it – it is not fair.
I think this rule should be applied in everyday life too.
About 2 weeks ago, my wife decided that she wanted to apply this rule to her closet. Before I continue, she does not have many clothes she does not wear. So out came the garbage bags and the “lost it” part began! 3 bags later, there was a lot of space in the cupboards and drawers. I got in on the fun too! It took about 30 minutes and it was actually good fun!

Guidelines for “lose it”
1. If you have not worn it in 6 months. This applies to “everyday” clothes and not special occasion out fits like suites or dresses. Lose it.
2. If you “used to” fit in to it and “hope to again”. Lose it.
3. If it does not belong to you. Lost it – well actually – give it back.

We gave our “chuck outs” to someone who needs clothes and who can sell them for some extra cash and it is always good to know someone else will benefit from them. Some cities have 2nd hand clothes stores that sell for charity and may give you some money for the clothes. Giving the old stuff away does feel good though so rather give it away to a worthy cause.

This can be applied to every room in the house as well as you office. Be careful with the laws of business in your country on what documents you have to keep and for how long.

Try it and see how you feel. You do not have to be ruthless the first time. Simply repeat the process until you are happy with the remains of your belongings.
Write a comment below and tell me!

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We all have the New Year Bug – this year is going to be fantastic, the best year yet! We set resolutions that are great in theoryBy the middle of the month, however, most people have already started the slide back to their regular existence, overcome by trying to reach lofty, unclear goals with the same mindset from the previous year.

Why does this happen?

It is because the resolutions and goals are completely unrealistic and really just a dream. In the ideal world, yes, they would probably work out. Sorry to say this but the ‘ideal world’ does not exist.

Here are some tips to help you set goals or resolutions that you will accomplish:

1. Keep it simple: The goal does not have to be elaborate. A novel seldom has a long title but yet can have a very complicated plot. Keep your ‘title’ simple. Read point 2 as a follow up to this.

2. Have a plan. This is probably the most important aspect to a resolution and accomplishing them. It is all very nice for me ( as a cyclist) to say ‘I want to cycle 6000 km in 2012’ but have no real plan to get  to that goal. It is the same with any goal you set. This is where it can get as complicated as it needs to. Daily / weekly and monthly goals are a good start.

Back to the cycling goal – 6000km is 500 km a month and 125km a week (on average). If I plan to do 2 rides during the week and one long ride on the weekend – the goal is attainable.

The plan has to involve the ‘down times’ during the year. These are the times when you go away on holiday or (if exercise related) during the colder winter months, when you do not keep the pace up to what is should be. Rest periods if you will. These are very important to factor into you plan to achieve you goal. back to the cycling example: if during the year i take off 1 month from training – the monthly average jumps closer to 600km per month and so on. This is a big factor to play into the plan.

3. Keep it real! Most often, goals and resolutions are unrealistic. This can either be the time frame that is set or what is wanting to be achieved.

a) Time frame: “I want to lose 10kg” seems fine as a goal over 3 or 4 months but “I want to lose 10kg by the end of January” is unrealistic (and unhealthy).

b) Actual goal. Take the above weight loss example. I should never lose 10kg. I am 6 foot 2 inches (192 cm) tall and weigh 93kg. If I was to lose 10kg – I would be sickly thin and probably very unhealthy.

Have  a look at your resolutions in light of these points and see how you can adjust them to make them more realistic. DO NOT remove them – just CHANGE them.

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