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The world is a fantastic place to live.  Love makes it spin and it’s run by invisible heroes performing random,  selfless acts of love and kindness.  You will be graced by these invisible heroes for a brief moment in time and then they seemingly vanish.
Some would call these heroes angels and these names are interchangeable to describe them.

Lying on the very hard, rough road after grinding to a halt using mainly my left elbow, 2 such heroes came from the darkness up the road and without question, stopped their morning ride, put their bikes down to assist a complete stranger. Asking nothing in return for their actions,  they effectively got my off the road and checked I was adequately safe and healthy. Once they had confirmed that I was safe and had a plan to get help, I sent them on their way.

To this day, I could not identify these 2 people. I can tell you they are male and they were riding mountain bikes. That’s it! I am of course grateful and thankful to these 2 heroes for a simple and pretty random act of kindness.

I hope that you have been on the receiving end of such kindness or love but more than that, have you ever been “the invisible hero”? I have had the honour of being the hero. It is certainly better to give than to receive.


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Who you hang around – that you will become.

“You cannot fly like an eagle when you are stuck with turkeys”.
If I told you that you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with – would you believe me?

Do this now:
1. Get a pen and paper and write down the people that you spend the most time with. It may be 20 names.
2. Scratch out family members.
3. Chose out of those names – the names that you spend the most time with.

THOSE are the people that will determine who you are, what you become and where you will go in life.

You have to exclude family members because we cannot choose your family. We can choose how we deal with them though.

I have seen effect on people in the work place environment. A person arrived on her first day – bubbly, talkative and energetic. She was hired for this reason. After her desk was moved into an office downstairs, her whole demeanour changed. The office was very negative with a lot of rumours and back biting going on. Not long after the move she was one of the office. She had changed completely purely because of who she was with most of the day.


Get out your mobile phone.
Go through the personal contacts.
DELETE anyone who brings you down when you talk to them.
How do you judge this? When you see their call come you either: do not want to answer and or go “ah no” not now.
For obvious reason you cannot delete business contacts and family.

This simple exercise will make a significant difference to you and your attitude.

Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the most successful in the room?

When you walk into the room of friends, have a look around and determine whether you are the most successful or knowledgeable. If you are, LEAVE. The only reason not leave is if you are teaching the people.
The reason for leaving the room is you cannot improve your knowledge in any way.
If you are not the most successful person – GREAT! You can learn from people and improve yourself.

Do the small things first

Small improvements can make a massive difference in life. Do not try and make a huge change or many changes at once. Change one thing at a time, master that and then change another and so on. Small changes are not difficult and soon make a huge difference.

“If there is someone you can live without, then do so” Bare Naked Ladies

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The well loved movie Finding Nemo had a blue fish called Dori. Dori is actually a Blue Tang. She is a lovable character who is very innocent and who has short term memory loss. Well, at least she thinks she does! She has a saying – a motto if you will – Just keep swimming. She repeats this many, many times – probably to not forget what she is doing or where she is going. As long as she is saying (and doing) this – she keeps moving forward.

I have found this to be true on a bike too. More so on a tandem bike than a single bike. In a race we cycled last year, I / we had to use this just to stay upright because the wind was blowing so hard. On an out and back course, we had the wind right against us until the halfway turnaround. It was the toughest wind I have battled on a bike. We just kept on pedalling and sure enough – we got to half way! If we stopped pedalling for whatever reason, we slowed down dramatically.

The same analogy can be brought into life. We have a goal / purpose. We head off and it happens fast and strong. The winds picks up and you slow down. If you stop pedalling then you will stop BUT if you just keep the pedals ‘ticking over’ then no matter how slowly you are moving – you ARE STILL MOVING forward. As long as you are moving forward – you WILL get to where you are going.

As the old saying goes “if you are going through hell – keep going”.

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Good morning said a woman as she walked up to the man sitting on ground.

The man slowly looked up. This was a woman clearly accustomed to the finer things of life. Her coat was new.. She looked like she had never missed a meal in her life.His first thought was that she wanted to make fun of him, like so many others had done before.. “Leave me alone,” he growled.

To his amazement, the woman continued standing. She was smiling her even white teeth displayed in dazzling rows.
“Are you hungry?” she asked.
“No,” he answered sarcastically.
“I’ve just come from dining with the president. Now go away.”

The woman’s smile became even broader. Suddenly the man felt a gentle hand under his arm.
“What are you doing, lady?” the man asked angrily.
“I said to leave me alone. Just then a policeman came up.
“Is there any problem, ma’am?” he asked.
“No problem here, officer,” the woman answered. “I’m just trying to get this man to his feet. Will you help me?”

The officer scratched his head. “That’s old Jack. He’s been a fixture around here for a couple of years. What do you want with him?”

“See that cafeteria over there?” she asked. “I’m going to get him something to eat and get him out of the cold for awhile.””Are you crazy, lady?” the homeless man resisted.

“I don’t want to go in there!” Then he felt strong hands grab his other arm and lift him up. “Let me go, officer. I didn’t do anything.”

“This is a good deal for you, Jack” the officer answered. “Don’t blow it.
“Finally, and with some difficulty, the woman and the police officer got Jack into the cafeteria and sat him at a table in a remote corner.
It was the middle of the morning, so most of the breakfast crowd had already left and the lunch bunch had not yet arrived.
The manager strode across the cafeteria and stood by his table. “What’s going on here, officer?” he asked. “What is all this, is this man in trouble?”
“This lady brought this man in here to be fed,” the policeman answered.

“Not in here!” the manager replied angrily. “Having a person like that here is bad for business..
“Old Jack smiled a toothless grin. “See, lady. I told you so. Now if you’ll let me go. I didn’t want to come here in the first place.
“The woman turned to the cafeteria manager and smiled.

“Sir, are you familiar with Eddy and Associates, the banking firm down the street?”
“Of course I am,” the manager answered impatiently. “They hold their weekly meetings in one of my banquet rooms.”
“And do you make a godly amount of money providing food at these weekly meetings?”
“What business is that of yours?
“I, sir, am Penelope Eddy, president and CEO of the company.”


The woman smiled again. “I thought that might make a difference.” She glanced at the cop who was busy stifling a giggle.
“Would you like to join us in a cup of coffee and a meal, officer?”
“No thanks, ma’am,” the officer replied. “I’m on duty.”

“Then, perhaps, a cup of coffee to go?”
“Yes, maam. That would be very nice.
“The cafeteria manager turned on his heel, “I’ll get your coffee for you right away, officer.

“The officer watched him walk away. “You certainly put him in his place,” he said.”That was not my intent. Believe it or not, I have a reason for all this.
“She sat down at the table across from her amazed dinner guest. She stared at him intently..
“Jack, do you remember me?”Old Jack searched her face with his old, rheumy eyes. “I think so, I mean you do look familiar.”

“I’m a little older perhaps,” she said. “Maybe I’ve even filled out more than in my younger days when you worked here, and I came through that very door, cold and hungry.”

“Ma’am?” the officer said questioningly. He couldn’t believe that such a magnificently turned out woman could ever have been hungry.

“I was just out of college,” the woman began. “I had come to the city looking for a job, but I couldn’t find anything. Finally I was down to my last few cents and had been kicked out of my apartment. I walked the streets for days. It was February and I was cold and nearly starving. I saw this place and walked in on the off chance that I could get something to eat.
“Jack lit up with a smile.

“Now I remember,” he said.. “I was behind the serving counter. You came up and asked me if you could work for something to eat. I said that it was against company policy.”

“I know,” the woman continued. “Then you made me the biggest roast beef sandwich that I had ever seen, gave me a cup of coffee, and told me to go over to a corner table and enjoy it. I was afraid that you would get into trouble.

Then, when I looked over and saw you put the price of my food in the cash register, I knew then that everything would be all right.”
“So you started your own business?” Old Jack said.

“I got a job that very afternoon. I worked my way up. Eventually I started my own business that, with the help of God, prospered.” She opened her purse and pulled out a business card.

“When you are finished here, I want you to pay a visit to a Mr. Lyons…He’s the personnel director of my company. I’ll go talk to him now and I’m certain he’ll find something for you to do around the office.”

She smiled. “I think he might even find the funds to give you a little advance so that you can buy some clothes and get a place to live until you get on your feet.
If you ever need anything, my door is always opened to you.
“There were tears in the old man’s eyes. “How can I ever thank you?” he said. “Don’t thank me,” the woman answered. “To God goes the glory. Thank Jesus. He led me to you.

“Outside the cafeteria, the officer and the woman paused at the entrance before going their separate ways.

“Thank you for all your help, officer,” she said.
“On the contrary, Ms. Eddy,” he answered. “Thank you. I saw a miracle today, something that I will never forget.

And..And thank you for the coffee.


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You sit and day dream about the perfect job or situation that would make your life perfect.
What are you waiting for?
Better weather?
The perfect partner – male or female?
More money?
Approval from your peers, loved ones or friends?

Why are you waiting for those things?

“The great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do” Walter Bagehot

Chances are all the reasons for you not doing what you want to do are basically all excuses. They are not real reasons stopping you but rather made up excuses that you have placed upon yourself and you situation to limit yourself.

There are only very few actual reasons not to do something. For example: you are not old enough. Still not a great excuse. All of these reasons generally expire and become invalid.

Possibly the most popular “reason” is “I do not have enough money”. This is a major factor in most peoples dreams. This too is an excuse. The reason for this being an excuse is the fact that you can actually do something about. The excuse then becomes an action plan “I do not have enough money YET”. It also has a time line which builds excitement for you and everyone around you.

Making your move will scare you indeed. I experienced this recently when I decided to take that first step towards my dream. Yes, it was scary beyond belief! Having said that, it has opened up opportunity beyond belief too. I am certainly learning stacks every day about all sorts of things. I love it and will not stop now!

In fact, the dreams have grown and are not stopping anytime soon!

Go on! Make your move!

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In the sport of rugby, at a certain stage of events, the team who has the possession of the ball is told by the ref “to use or lose it”. It makes sense (sometimes) because what is the point of having the ball if you are not going to use it – it is not fair.
I think this rule should be applied in everyday life too.
About 2 weeks ago, my wife decided that she wanted to apply this rule to her closet. Before I continue, she does not have many clothes she does not wear. So out came the garbage bags and the “lost it” part began! 3 bags later, there was a lot of space in the cupboards and drawers. I got in on the fun too! It took about 30 minutes and it was actually good fun!

Guidelines for “lose it”
1. If you have not worn it in 6 months. This applies to “everyday” clothes and not special occasion out fits like suites or dresses. Lose it.
2. If you “used to” fit in to it and “hope to again”. Lose it.
3. If it does not belong to you. Lost it – well actually – give it back.

We gave our “chuck outs” to someone who needs clothes and who can sell them for some extra cash and it is always good to know someone else will benefit from them. Some cities have 2nd hand clothes stores that sell for charity and may give you some money for the clothes. Giving the old stuff away does feel good though so rather give it away to a worthy cause.

This can be applied to every room in the house as well as you office. Be careful with the laws of business in your country on what documents you have to keep and for how long.

Try it and see how you feel. You do not have to be ruthless the first time. Simply repeat the process until you are happy with the remains of your belongings.
Write a comment below and tell me!

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