Posts Tagged ‘close friends’

Have you changed?

We took a drive one December to see an old colleague and we had a great time. They were and still are great guys and we had a great day by the pool. 3 years later, we did the same trip almost to the hour, even getting lost as we did 3 years ago. This time my daugther was 3 years older and my son was already 1 year old. They, as they do, took us in and we had a fantastic time. They took on our kids as they were best friends that see them every weekend. A great time was had by all of us.

When we got back home, I sent a message of thanks to them and also to tell them we got home safely (it was about 130km trip). At first I was surprised at the message that was sent back. It said, “thank you for a great day and I am so glad that you guys have not changed at all”.It had been 3 years since the last time we went to their house and a huge amount of change had happened in that time to each one of us.

Amongst other things, I had been retrenched, started my own business and our family grew with another bundle of joy. Some pretty dramatic changes, if you ask me!Having thought about this comment for a little while, it dawned on me that actually, despite all the changes that occur in our daily lives, the core person you are should not actually change. Just because I had been retrenched, it does not mean that i should change who i am. Your core values and who you are as a person should actually never change.

A fine example of this is a long, loving marriage. 2 young, energetic people get together and get married. 50 years later, that marriage is still going. The couple may not be as young and energetic anymore but on the inside, they are still the same person. They are the person that the other fell in love with – just with 50 years of life. The point here is that the person inside should never change. Circumstances may change the outer covering but it does not change who you are.

The next time someone says, after you have seen each other for many years, “you have not changed a bit”, take it as a compliment. Who you are inside is what is important and is what others will notice more than the outer appearance.

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You have got to hold on. Hold on to whatever or whoever you have. Over the last year or so, I have been through a very rough time.

Go back to the rough times in your life and

I can guarantee that there was / is a constant something or someone. It may seem strange and you can disagree and argue all you want. When you analyse it enough there is a constant. Find it.

Find it and hold on. Find it and all you have to do is very simple. You have got to just hold on it.

In my rough time, it has been my family and few close friends. Some of them are close but some of them are a long way away. Distance does not matter here. Sometimes it was only a phone call or a Skype call. Whatever it was that told me that my family were there for me (us) in support, I will hold onto that.

Finding out what you have to hold onto also creates an opportunity to be supportive to others during rough times. Again, it may be small but, to them, it may mean the world.

Holding on to simple things is sometimes the only thing you have but it will make a huge difference in the way you handle a rough patch in life.

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