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What do you dream about? What will your life be like when you’ve achieved your most deeply held dreams? Let’s take a look at how you can start living your dreams this very day.

Do you have a dream, a vision of the life you wish to live?
How specific is that dream?
How clear is that vision?
How do you intend to reach it?
What obstacles stand in your way?
Are your fears holding you back or are you using them to move you forward?

Your fears can actually lead you to success. Fear is an intense emotion. But that doesn’t mean it has to control you, or even stop you. Fear can prepare you and push you forward just as strongly as it can hold you back. Fear heightens your awareness and increases your physical strength. Fear brings your mind to sharp focus. With all that going for you, does it make sense to just run and hide? Of course not. Fear gets you in shape to take action.

Are you waiting for things to get better before moving ahead? If you’re serious about success, you need to start taking action today. If you’re waiting for things to be perfect, you’ll wait forever and nothing will ever get done.

The way to achieve is to bloom where you’re planted, to do what you can, where you are, with what you have. It’s easy to think up excuses for not taking action. If only I had more hours in the day. If only I had a better job. If only I could meet the right person. But excuses won’t bring you anything of value. You’ve got to change your “if only” into an “I will.” I will make better use of my time. I will work on improving my career. I will create and nurture my relationships.

Just as giving money, though, be sure to give your time to organizations that speak to you. You’ll feel so much more committed and have a greater sense of contentment when you are part of a group that you truly believe in. People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.

Take a chance. Have faith in yourself. Your circumstances will improve when you make the effort to improve them. Start where you are right now. Start where you are with you have because what you hace is enough. You have everything it takes to reach for whatever you desire. Stop wishing. Use your time, your energy, your thoughts and efforts to make it happen. You’ll be glad you did.

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I have a 3 year old daughter. I am biased in saying she is wonderful but she is. We love her to bits! I soon realised that as much as she is learning daily from us – I (we as parents) are learning vital lessons from her. Certain lessons, I jave really tried to use in my daily life and encourage her to develop.
The list is endless and there will be another post like this, but here are the first 6 that I wrote down.

1. Enthusiasm is key.
Have you ever seen a 3 year old wave? It’s a whole body experience. Both hands go like crazy, not to mention their little faces light up like a Christmas tree after 7 espressos!

2. Never stop learning.
Every single day a 3 year old is learning what seems like an infinite number of things. New things. I take my daughter to school and she was exceptionally excited because we took a different route to school and she noticed that we had not used that route before. Never go a day without stretching your body or your mind like a 3 year old. They test their limits and break them daily. So should you! Never go a day without stretching your body or your mind.

3. Go, go, go, sleep!
3 year olds are perpetual motion. They never stop. When they stop they sleep. They may sleep for 2 – 3 hours or 20 minutes. Our daughter always looked like she was going to sleep for long periods but very seldom did. We as adults, should not go until we sleep but we should take breaks throughout the day. They might be short ones just recharge or longer to get some good rest. Either way, it’s a good idea.

4. If you say you will do something, DO IT!
This has caught us out numerous times. There is a great saying ‘judge a tree by the fruit it bears not by the fruit it talks about’ and this defines a 3 year old, especially my daughter. If we have told her that we will go to hw ahop to get shoes, she will remind us and ask wel after we have forgotten we said it or when we are too tired. If you do not do what you said you will do – well lets just say that the end of the world arrivws prwtty quickly for our little one. Enough said.

5. Be cautious but go all in.
My daughter can be very shy at first. It takes some time for her to try something new but once she has and she enjoys it – it’s all in time baby! You can be cautious to begin with but once you decide on a path or direction, go for it 100%.

6. Do what you enjoy.
We attanded a 4 year olds birthday party recently. One of my daughter’s class mates. We had been to the venue before and it was very nice. This time around, my daughter skipped all the things she had looked at on the last visit and went straight for the sand pit. Very seldom does my daughter (or any 3 year old) do anything they do not want to so why do we? We do things because we are supposed to do it or expected to attend but really don’t have to. Head to your sand pit of life.

What has your child or children taught you?

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What is your Rage?

“Take that rage, put it on a page, take the page the stage and blow the roof off the place”

We all have rage. It just takes a different form in each of us. This is a quote from song “if you could see me now” by the Script.


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It has been a very different 5 months from what had envisaged prior to my tumble. The plan, you ask? Well, it involved about 1000 lm of cycling including a sub 2 hour 65km dash from cato ridge to Durban. I had also planned on taking over most of the hard phyical work arou d the house whilst preparing for the birth of our second child. He arrived on the 17th December.
Instead of this i got a reality thatwas not quite as pretty or planned out. I got a lot of pain, discomfort accompanied by 2 hours of reconstructive surgey on my left arm, 3 days of hospital, many medical bills amd 5 months of restricted movement.
There is a south african word for this experience “eish”.

Through this very trying experience,  I have been taught a few lessons. Here they are but not restricted too:
1. Your non dominant arm is not as retarded as you think. Never take ot for granted.
2. Medical aid is a must have!
3. The suppot around me is absolutely phenomenal.  Both local and abroad.
4. Never laigh at someone who is doing rehabilitation with small weights.  I did this until I was the 6 foot 3 inch man doing tricep extensions with 500 GRAM weight. I sweated out more water than I care to admit.
5. When you have the option of spending time with your family – take it. Because I did not drice for 10 weeks, I spent alot of time in the car with my wife. It was a really nice time of talking and spending time together.
Last but not least
5. I am a USELESS navigator in the car. I got lost with the help of google, I must add.

After all that – I have to say that my close family have brought me through this trial and I would never have been able to do it without their help.
5 days short of 5 months, I had a ride of 45km that for the most part was completely pain free in terms of my elbow. My undercarriage is sore though.
I am happy to say I AM BACK!

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I may not have got to goal 1 yet but I have got the first brick session in my legs. It was not pretty. Not even close.

It was not fast.  Not even close.

I was not ready for it physically.  Not even close.

I was not not ready for it mentally.  Not even close.

Are you starting to see a trend here?

About the only good thing that happened was that I went out and did it! I completely tanked afterwards but it was nowhere near to the low I would have experienced if I had not gone out there.

So not pretty but it is one in the legs.

My arm is still up to scratch but getting stronger everyday. It was a little tired and sore after the above workout but that was mainly due to the aggressive setup of my road bike.

One down Many to go.

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It has been a fairly long and tough 13 weeks since a log changed the direction of my bike and my life in a matter of seconds. I have witnessed amazing acts of kindness and will never take my left foe granted ever again.

The strengthening of my elbow, and in particular my triceps muscle, has begun.  Isotonic strengthening to be exact. This is strength exercises without moving in the joint. It feels very random but it takes as much effort.
My range of movement is pretty much full currently and the focus is to get the strength up to normal once more. Functional range of motion is 30 to 130 degrees and I have 11 to 142 degrees. The occupational therapist is very happy with that and is now focusing on the strengthening of the triceps and elbow.


When asked, i say to people that my elbow is about 90% healed. I believe that but also believe that the last 10% is probably going to take quite some time to attain. Strengthening is key for that 10% to be achieved. I am pretty much functional day-to-day with only the odd activity that I cannot do because of the lack of strength or range of motion.

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Following my hospital stay, I was instructed to see an occupational therapist to rehabilitate by arm back to full strength. I did not think it would be as hard as it is though. The first appointment involved making a cast that limited my range of motion. In simple terms – so I did not move my arm to I ripped the tendon off!

Then the OT gave me the process and the plan to recovery. 5 months! That is 5 months until complete recovery i.e. back to normal. That is a long time. I was (and am) determined to do this properly. The warning from the surgeon was simple: Be very patient through the rehab otherwise you will not gain full power and strength back EVER!

Eish! So patient I have tried to be.

Weekly visits to the OT have been encouraging because I can see the improvement. This weekend will make 10 weeks since that fateful day and i am halfway through the rehab of 5 months. I have not driven in 10 weeks.

So 10 weeks in and I am halfway to my first goal of getting my arm back to full strength. this is possibly the most important step. Without my arm injury free, I am not going anywhere especially to a half iron man! At 10 weeks, strengthening started and although very limited, it is absolutely necessary to start small and build on those little steps.

This is going to be the theme through this experience, start with little steps and build on those.


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