Posts Tagged ‘People’

Share Your Growth

We are living in the information age with all the information you could possibly imagine right on the edge of our fingertips at the touch of a button. We all lap this information up like thirsty camels at a watering hole but once we have “drunk” all we can, we keep it to ourselves!

Hang on! Why?

Share the growth you experience

There are 2 main reasons to share the knowledge you have gained:

1.It will cement it in your head.

The ones who teach often learn the most. you may get a question that requires you to confirm what you are saying thereby increasing you knowledge once more. If you have to explain it, especially out loud, in simple terms you will understand it more yourself.

2. It may help someone get to their dreams

We are all here to help each other. There is no better compliment to get than to see someone reach their goal or potential. We do not do it for this reason only. We do not need the glory. It is just a pleasure helping someone along their path. We have all been helped so reciprocate this by passing help along to someone else.

Spread the love by spreading your knowledge. what have you got to lose?


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We all have a switch inside of us that when pushed by anyone or any situation can make us go from calm and placid to angry in a split second. Lets call it the angry switch. We have all been through this type of situation –  be it a little brother or sister that pokes us in the ribs in the car or a colleague at work which seems to rub you up the wrong way all day! These are just simple examples.

There is good news though.

We all have a “Pause” button. It is inside there somewhere. It may be dusty and hidden or even rusty but it is still there.

How do you use this button?

It takes practice to get this right.

Step 1. Know your triggers. Learn what flicks that angry switch on.

Step 2. Feel the switch flick on and know whats coming.

Step 3. Hit the PAUSE button!

What does this mean?

When you hit the pause button, you have to consciously tell yourself to not react or even walk away. If you react when your emotions are high (be it anger, frustration etc), you will not react in the proper manner. If you hit the pause button and then react, you will have time to think in a responsible manner. Consequently, you will react in a way that will be good and proper often resulting in the situation fizzling out and being forgotten because it is not important.

There have been a few occasions where this has saved me recently both at work and socially. Let me explain. I get very involved when I spectate at the local sports ground. I get very vocal. I NEVER boo or swear out loud. Because we have season tickets and sit in the same seats for every game, the people around me know this. Some of them are more vocal than me. some of them just ignore me. There are people a couple of rows below ours that express their disapproval towards my actions.

The last game I attended, one adult turned around and gave a few choice words about my actions. At this point, I was already very aware of how emotional I was. I knew what I had to do. I also knew what I would like to do.

What did I do? I just listened and let him have his opinion. I do not think I said anything.

As you can imagine, I was upset and angry but I had not reacted and this was a very big step for me. As I said earlier – this takes practice.

This is an example about something socially where the consequences do not often result in the dramatic results. IN business however, they can result in major consequences including financial. Sometimes when the email comes or the telephone gets put down – its best to walk away for 10 minutes before approaching the situation again. This will limit the damage down by reacting while emotions are high.

When emotions are high, hit the PAUSE BUTTON to release the pressure.

How do you handle your emotions? Let us know so we can try it too.

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Who you hang around – that you will become.

“You cannot fly like an eagle when you are stuck with turkeys”.
If I told you that you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with – would you believe me?

Do this now:
1. Get a pen and paper and write down the people that you spend the most time with. It may be 20 names.
2. Scratch out family members.
3. Chose out of those names – the names that you spend the most time with.

THOSE are the people that will determine who you are, what you become and where you will go in life.

You have to exclude family members because we cannot choose your family. We can choose how we deal with them though.

I have seen effect on people in the work place environment. A person arrived on her first day – bubbly, talkative and energetic. She was hired for this reason. After her desk was moved into an office downstairs, her whole demeanour changed. The office was very negative with a lot of rumours and back biting going on. Not long after the move she was one of the office. She had changed completely purely because of who she was with most of the day.


Get out your mobile phone.
Go through the personal contacts.
DELETE anyone who brings you down when you talk to them.
How do you judge this? When you see their call come you either: do not want to answer and or go “ah no” not now.
For obvious reason you cannot delete business contacts and family.

This simple exercise will make a significant difference to you and your attitude.

Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the most successful in the room?

When you walk into the room of friends, have a look around and determine whether you are the most successful or knowledgeable. If you are, LEAVE. The only reason not leave is if you are teaching the people.
The reason for leaving the room is you cannot improve your knowledge in any way.
If you are not the most successful person – GREAT! You can learn from people and improve yourself.

Do the small things first

Small improvements can make a massive difference in life. Do not try and make a huge change or many changes at once. Change one thing at a time, master that and then change another and so on. Small changes are not difficult and soon make a huge difference.

“If there is someone you can live without, then do so” Bare Naked Ladies

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I often find myself watching the progress of a program on my computer and lately I have been asking myself ‘why are you watching this when you can do other things while it finishes?’

Another example is at traffic lights (robots in South Africa) – you see people edging forward when it’s red. In cities with public transport – people cannot stand still when the transport is expected.

What are we waiting for? What is the rush? The computer will finish what it is doing for you in its own time – not yours? We all know that the Microsoft minute is not actually a minute and can range from seconds to multiple minutes. The transport will arrive soon enough. If it does not – it is not your fault and it is out of your control. No one can hold you accountable for those situations.

Next time you find yourself in the situation as above, try and relax. If you can do something else while waiting – do it! Take that long needed toilet break, make that cup of coffee or just sit back and take a breath and chill out for that time. If you are waiting for transport, look around you.

While you are waiting for something or even someone try the following:

1. Try and notice things around you. Even in an underground train station, there are things to watch and notice.

2. If you are fortunate enough to have music, have a good song going. Dance if you want.

3. People watch. There are 7 billion people in the world so this is always an option.

4. Are you waiting in an office? Take 10 seconds to memorize the space around you. Close your eyes and paint the picture of the space around you.


Before you know it, it will be time to go.

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What do you give presents for? What is the point? Many people only give because it is ‘expected’ of them at certain times of the year. Birthdays, Christmas and possibly a special religious occasion are the most popular.

Expensive does not mean impressive or appropriate.

Apart from the actual present giving, there is another aspect to the gift – the pricing dilemma. To most, the more expensive means the more impressive the gift. This may be true to a degree but it also can be interpreted as less thoughtful.

Here are 5 reasons to go this route:

1. These gifts are gifts that win every time – yes every time.

2. These gifts are timeless. The occasion does not matter because the gift is for that person so it never gets old or out of date.

3. These gifts are (most of the time) less expensive than others.

This is the biggest plus side by far. There is, however a down side to being less expensive – these gifts take effort. What you save in cash – you pay for in time and effort. A bit of planning goes a long way!

4. These gifts are less stressful to shop for.

This should be obvious. You have done all the hard work before you hit the shops, you can plan your attack on the local markets or malls (up to months) in advance and can avoid the last minute emotion (see number 5 below) before a big holiday!

5. There are no emotional decisions to be made at the lat minute.

Picture this: it is the last week before a huge present giving holiday and you are trying to rush some shopping. You are stuck in a huge mall with (seemingly) millions of other people. You have just found out that the ‘perfect gift’ is sold out in every store you have been to!

Enter – the emotional decision you have to make! No one likes to make these decisions and a lot of them are made badly, cost a lot more and are often regretted later!

It;s too late for this Christmas, but try these tips out throughout the year ahead for birthdays and other present giving special occasions.

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